What would I tell my first- time parent self, if I knew what I know now! There’s so many things I would do differently, especially when I was so sleep deprived, In the early stages, I didn’t know what day it was most of the time! I was trying to do everything and didn’t ask for any help…WHY!!! When I’ve so many friends and family who were just waiting to be asked. These are my tips to my first-time parent self #VicksBabyRub Challenge!
I would definitely tell myself first and foremost to SLEEP when the baby slept. Why didn’t I do this!…
So many of my friends told me this, but you know how it is, you can get so much done. You end up running round like a headless chicken cleaning, washing, ironing, tidying everything away when you know it will be all out again as soon as your baby wakes up! Don’t worry what needs to be done in those early few weeks just sleep. No one is watching everything you do, and does it really matter if the house is untidy, you’ve a pile of washing, or your hair looks like you’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards! it will all eventually get done! Your body goes through so much, and if your baby doesn’t sleep, like my son didn’t, please grab every hour you can, because there’s nothing worst than walking round like a zombie for most of the day.
This was James shortly after he was born. I remember having my hospital bag packed weeks before all prepared feeling like I had thought of everything!
When my labour started I thought this was great I can cope with this! Little did I know it was just the beginning. After hours of getting in and out the bath and timing my contractions, with my phone app 😉 I was ready to go the hospital all excited but nervous with my bag in my hand all calm. After almost arriving we had forgotten change for the car park and my notes from the consultant! Prepared we were not! We travelled all the way back home to get everything, I don’t know how I didn’t punch my husband… haha. My contractions were so strong. We tried again second time lucky only to be told I was only 3cm dilated and was told to come back in a couple of hours. I could have cried! I would definitely not have gone home if I’d know what I know now. As I had this very very young midwife who didn’t have a clue! I kid you not. I’d no sooner got home when I couldn’t stand it. As we arrived for the third time a new midwife helped me,and reassured me that I was going to be ok, why didn’t I have this lovely lady from the start! I had an emergency C section, which was really scary at the time and I was in and out of consciousness for almost two days. I couldn’t breast feed and remember my husband had to leave me. So I would say to myself to pack ready made milk in my hospital bag, the hospital did have some but it wasn’t always easy to get hold of. My husband was running round trying to get the ready made milk without any idea which one would be suitable. So a little tip to myself would be to definitely grab a pack. I would reassure myself that I would get through this and tell myself not to worry as James was fit and healthy and we’d be home soon, what more could I ask for 🙂
When I got home I remember changing James nappy and I’d no sooner got his nappy under his bum when he weed right in my face! No one told me about how to control the direction of the wee flow. I couldn’t stop laughing at myself and remember this was a perfect mummy moment and a huge learning curve for me! 🙂
James had lots of sleepless nights with colic and reflux, we tried everything! From different Milk formula’s to different makes of bottles. Spending a small fortune but nothing seemed to work. To ease James discomfort we propped him up by putting a pillow under his cot mattress just so it was slightly elevated, and I would massage his chest and tummy with Vicks Baby Rub. I think the mild fragrances of Rosemary, Lavender and Aloe Vera helped to calm James down and made me and James feel more relaxed. I was so relieved I could actually do something that he loved.
Now Vicks Baby Rub is a firm favourite and has just become part of our bedtime routine. After James has had his bath I massage his chest and tummy with Vicks Baby Rub, which moisturises, soothes and comforts James.
It’s also suitable for his delicate skin. I finish with rubbing his tummy as it always makes him giggle! then it’s story time and bed. James has no problem getting off to sleep. It’s the early rises we’re dealing with now! 🙂
There’s so many other things I could say but for me The sleep and knowing all the hard stages do pass by so quickly, embrace them, keep calm, and enjoy every single moment, as they are not babies long! I feel so lucky to be a mummy there are no set rules I would say go with your gut feeling as you are the mummy and know your little one more than any one! These are my tips to my first-time parent self #VicksBabyRub Challenge.
I’d Love to hear any tips you have to share 🙂
* “This post is an entry for BritMums #VicksBabyRub Challenge, sponsored by Vicks Baby Rub. Specially designed for babies aged 6 months and over, Vicks Baby Rub is available at Boots, Superdrug, Tesco, Asda, Waitrose, and all good pharmacy chains £3.99. ”
Author: Mandy J McDonald
A UK Family Lifestyle & Days Out Blogger – Sharing our mini family adventures & my love for all home and garden inspirations with lots of tips & tricks!!!